... should match the severity of the transgression, ranging from 'Surely I must have misunderstood you' to 'I beg your pardon!' to 'How dare you!' to 'You will be hearing from my lawyer.' Properly used, however, all of these are perfectly polite responses to highly impolite behavior.I love Miss Manners. She is funny and wise, and she says that all manners may be boiled down to one important principle: People are more important than things.
--Miss Manners, A Citizen's Guide to Civility
For Christians, though, there is only one response to rude behavior: "Thank you." Because every word spoken to us, every experience we have is a gift, given to us in order to help us to grow. It is convenient for us to be on the receiving end of rude behavior. It is useful to us. What is our faith worth if we can become unsettled by an insensitive remark? What difference can Christ's sacrifice on the cross make to people who can't keep their cool in the face of a mere insult?
Demand not that events should happen as you wish; but wish that they happen as they do happen, and you will go on well (The Enchiridion of Epictetus).Shall we then become stoics? No! We wish for events to happen as they do happen because they are given to us. Let us give ourselves in return to the One who gives all!