What does it take to be able to say, Here is the evidence. Now I've found the way I want to live?
As Rose points out in the film, the secret to life doesn't lie in talking; nor does it lie in action; it lies in paying attention to a person, really paying attention to the person that life puts in front of you. Paying attention until your life vibrates in sympathy with the other person's life, so that what you want for that person is more joy than any one person can hold -- not just a cure for an illness, not just financial stability or satisfaction in work or relationships -- but the truth about that person's infinite value and above all, access to tenderness that we know that we don't make.
This desire, to pay attention in this way, can't happen automatically but only as a result of great ascesis. There is no convincing argument that will persuade you to give this sort of gift of self and no calculation that will make the sacrifice seem to pay off.
The only thing that may help is to take a very long look at Rose's face.
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